Cohousing as a Network of Support and Connection

Cohousing provides a strong and sustainable way for people to age with dignity and support. As mentioned in the previous blog post (10/21/2024), one of the leading advocates of this idea is Charles Durrett (author of The Senior Cohousing Handbook), who has spent most of his career promoting the advantages of cohousing, especially for seniors. Durrett observes, “One thing to remember is that a cohousing community has residents in a wide range of ages. Not everyone gets old at once. Even senior-only communities have residents in their 50s and 60s and into their 80s and 90s.” This variety of ages and skills creates a lively environment where one person's needs can be met by another's abilities. As residents grow older, they are surrounded by neighbors who are younger or more active. This makes it possible to remain in a community that feels both familiar and connected to their care.

Denise Foley’s article, “Who Will Provide Care for Childless Boomers?” shows a clear picture of this need, especially for many boomers who are aging without immediate family. Foley points out the growing problem of “elder orphans” who don’t have nearby family members to support them. By 2050, estimates suggest that there will be fewer than three family caregivers for each person over 80. This signals a significant caregiving shortfall. For childless seniors, Foley explains that cohousing offers not just companionship, but a crucial layer of mutual aid that helps prevent isolation and improves overall quality of life. She describes seniors who have taken steps to arrange for support in their later years as the most ideal plan, and relocating into community-centered cohousing ensures that they have close neighbors to rely on, both for daily needs and during health crises. However, these solutions may not be enough because many may still face challenges in finding the right support beyond family.

Cohousing, of course, provides much more than just care; it inherently fosters connectedness and mutuality. As mentioned in Revisioning Retirement (Durrett, Study Group 1 Facilitator Guide, page 87), “When asked what contributes most to living a long life, most people believe that having a supportive social network is the key to longevity.” The shared experiences of living, celebrating, and grieving together form bonds that help alleviate feelings of loneliness and depression, which are major risks for seniors. In cohousing, members often take part in collective activities like weekly communal meals and wellness programs, that promote healthy lifestyles and strengthen social ties. The ongoing companionship among neighbors helps create an environment where individuals feel safe to reveal their vulnerabilities and ask for help when needed. Residents remember birthdays and share celebrations. Neighbors feel comfortable reaching out for assistance or lending a hand. It is this steady, ongoing companionship that not only enhances quality of life, but also fosters resilience, an important part of aging well.

Cohousing provides a strong network that enhances mental and emotional well-being, while also offering tangible assistance as needs arise. Cohousers look out for their neighbors, enabling each other to navigate the complexities of aging together. However, it's important to remember that these communities rely on active participation from all members. Although it might require extra effort, the benefits can be significant.